Okay, this really makes me think. I left the general Sonic community because I didn't like the people who were there for the most part. You can go into a thousand details, but that was the root of it all. I don't talk to many people from forums like SWS2B and SCARZ, except for a few people I like. I go to FUS of course, and a good majority of the people there are wonderful. I never really get into spats or anything. They're much more mature and well mannered than most of the people at the forums I used to go to.
So why am I bringing this up? Well occasionally this guy Tweaker (also known as 'Sonicdustin') contacts me. Me and him have had a few falling outs in the past, but I remain nice to him when he contacts me. He usually wants something from me when he does, but I just figure "whatever". Of course he still occasionally says negative things about me at forums I don't go to anymore, but I ignore it. I have kept my mouth shut for the most part. Obviously you can see I don't trust the guy though, and for good reason.
Today this is what happened:
[23:39] Sonicdustin: Hmm
[23:39] Sonicdustin: So you know
[23:40] Sonicdustin: Fiz looked up your phone number in her phonebook
[23:40] Sonicdustin: and she found you
[23:40] Sonicdustin: kinda funny
[23:40] Sonicdustin: we called up for you over skype and QJimbo talked to your grandma for a bit
[23:40] Sonicdustin: nice lady
[23:46] Damian: Pardon?
[23:47] Damian: Why would Fiz be looking up my number?
[23:47] Sonicdustin: It was a random skype conference, we started looking up names
[23:47] Sonicdustin: and we were like "Hey, what about Damian Grove?"
[23:47] Sonicdustin: And she found it
[23:47] Sonicdustin: totally didn't expect it
[23:47] Sonicdustin: She got mine and SGR's too I think
[23:48] Damian: I don't know what skype is
[23:49] Sonicdustin: It's an online voice conference thingy
[23:49] Sonicdustin: http://skype.com/
[23:49] Damian: Oh okay
[23:49] Sonicdustin: It can call to real phones now too, and for free
Okay, now he mentions someone named Fiz. Fiz is someone I never got along with and had many, many falling outs with too. I'm not going to go through all the history, but I'll simply say I have tried to get away from some of these people. I'm sitting here reading Tweaker write that she found my number and that QJimbo called me. You can see the obvious trouble here. Why would they want to talk to me? The only reason I can figure is to have fun with it, and maybe share a log with friends.
Things like this go on all the time around the world. My basic thoughts are "why are some people so obsessed with creating more wounds?". It makes no sense. Any reasonable person would say "okay, we don't get along with this guy, so lets just leave him be". The internet is very different from real life. In real life, you can stick up for yourself, and I've had to put a couple people in their place before. But on the internet, your options are really limited. That's why I've always felt it was best for people to look out for one another, and to scold stupid behaviour that is designed to provoke people. This never happens. Now I don't need anyone to stick up for me, I'm capable on my own. But some people need the support.
Well today my friend Spoonstar (also known as PorpoiseMuffins) stuck up for someone on FUS. It really made me think about how there are a few people out there willing to stand their ground to help friends and people in general. It's sort of what they call around my area "southern hospitality". This made me think back to what Tweaker wrote today and I figured he must not know what standing up for your friends means. To dump one because some others don't like him that well isn't right. So I'm using this blog post to put in perspective the importance of southern hospitality.
After seeing Spoonstar's defence today, and coincidently since I have an example with Tweaker to use, I was very motivated to write this. I figured I'd write something different for a change besides the usual ProSonic stuff.